No one should bear the weight of grief alone.
In grief is there’s a lot to grapple with, it’s a lot to hold. It (temporarily) affects how your brain and body function. It’s often difficult to perform day-to-day activities, hard to keep up with obligations and relationships, and you might feel that if you let yourself feel the grief and loss you’d never find our way out. It’s a weird place to be.
Contrary to popular belief, grief doesn’t happen in predictable or measurable stages – sometimes I wish it did because then I could give you a timeline as to you when you’d feel “normal” again. Each person’s response is unique. It is big, unpredictable, and, like a wave, it relentlessly keeps coming. The emotions and physical impact that come with grief can be so intense that they can seem frightening, confusing, or overwhelming.
Sadly, oftentimes the world around us doesn’t know what to do with grief and sorrow and so tries to push away it away. Wanting, needing us to “get over it” and return to normal, productive, happy lives. We want to emerge from our grief too, yet, this often creates an even greater sense of isolation in a world that is forever changed.
Grief, and its intensity, is a natural part of life. It demands that we go through it, not around it. If we make space for love, we must also make space for grief. Having traveled through my own grief, I have come to understand that grief is not the enemy, it is what makes the unbearable bearable. I offer a a quiet place where you can connect and heal, a place where you can explore and navigate your grief with someone who will help you not get lost or drown in it.
Nothing can erase your memories, both the beautiful and the painful. However, you must find a way, your way, to carry them forward into the life ahead. I can be with you as you do.